April 2021, On the writing life: I could no more will myself to stop writing than I could to stop breathing. Yet, I seesaw on whether I want to continue to put my work out there, to strive, to achieve. It is a long-haul lifestyle with no guarantee of payback for hours, months and even years of work. Some days yes, some days, no.
I made my peace with that I will never have my MFA CW. I educate myself where and when the budget and opportunities allow. I read all the time though since the pandemic, I have become more of a watcher.
At the end of the day each movie or show is made up of layers of writers before it reaches an actor to interpret. TV wasn’t allowed much when I was a kid so it still feels a bit illicit.
Since I have branched out from poetry to writing children’s stories, fantasy, essays and short stories etc., watching character development come to life onscreen can be pretty cool.
Anyway when I am at a “I’m just stopping and doing it just for me” place, I think back to moments with readers that left indelible marks. The poem about a little boy supporting his friend with leukemia that became a centerfold of their school yearbook that had such an impact on parents and teachers of both boys, on the principal of the school—that was a big one.
The poem my neighbor read to her blind husband who had grown up where I stood as I wrote about what I saw, and he was able to identify the spot exactly is another.
The time I answered the door to some energy guys w paint on my hands and ended up giving one my business card because he had a friend who wanted to be a writer, forgot about it, and then the last person in line to get a copy of “Totems” at the book launch turned out to be that friend, whose dad had driven her from Herkimer to Canastota that night so she could meet me, a lasting memory.
The first short story I showed a well-known mentor who told me it “needs a lot of work.” So I let it simmer, but two best friends clamored to read it. Both voracious readers, they told me “F**k experts, send it out!” And the acceptance letter for it that said, “this is one of the most tender, dear love stories I have ever read.” (And the highest paid I have ever been for one piece.)
The elderly woman who said, “I’ve read two books this year, the Bible and your poetry. Your book comforts me.” This was humbling.
I’ve struggled to identify my niche in the literary world. I’m not in academia. I’m not many things. The constant I return to is that my work has resonated in a huge way with particular readers along my journey. So I think of myself as a “people’s poet.”
At the end of the day, whether you are poet laureate or a Pulitzer-winning author or someone writing on envelope backs in your room, or a famous novelist; whether you publish with Randomhouse or a small indie publisher, you want your words to have an impact on someone reading it.
I’ve been through so many changes and so much chaos in my life, I am so grateful to have settled and to have put down roots. I always feel like I’m just getting started. It doesn’t matter my age, it still feels new and still is a wonder when a reader drops a card in the mail or shoots me an email.
There are goals I maintain, but I always used to say “Just once I wish all the focussing rings of my life would line up. Just once.” Well, they sorta kind of have. And I want to settle into it and live it. To be in it.
Someday far from now someone who doesn’t know me well will be tasked with going through my things after I’m gone. I’ve helped twice or three times do just that job and listened to and felt
the disinterest or frustration or wry humor of why someone had “all this stuff.” It is sad but it is the way of things.
Were I to feel not-new enough to think about what my legacy might be, it would be that I took care of the earth I was privileged to share and that maybe some of my words, a painting or two will live on to be passed down as a cherished treasure.